Keys to Make Arranged Marriages a Success

Arranged marriages are not that simple, as in these situations majority of the people do not know their would-be partner too well. However, there are certain factors that should be taken care of before you proceed toward marrying a person, even if he/she has been chosen by your parents/relatives.

Age

When selecting a bride/groom through an online matrimony site, or newspaper classifieds, it is important to keep the age factor in mind. The age gap between the bride and the groom should not be too wide. Ideally, it is best that the bride is about 23-27 years of age and the groom is within 30 years.

Qualities

Keep a list of the qualities you expect your future husband/wife to have and share the list with the individual chosen to be your life partner. The individual should know your expectations before marriage and should proceed only if both of your wavelengths match.

Expectations

Keep a check on your expectations. While it is necessary to let your partner know what qualities you need in him/her, it is also better not to expect that all those requirements will be fulfilled. It is very unlikely that a single person will have all the virtues you ask for.

Financial security and looks

Though the economic stature of the family you are getting married in counts a lot for arranged marriages, it will be better not to look upon it as the most important thing. The looks of the individual you are getting married to should also be a secondary factor. Do not give it a lot of attention.

Background research

It is vital to do a thorough background research on the person you are going to marry, before saying a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to the marriage proposal.

Work your brain

No matter how much your parents/relatives praise a match, always rely on your own instincts. Observe the person chosen for you closely and if you feel confused regarding any behavior, talk to your friends and siblings for helping you out. Let your decision be the final one.

Note that marriage is for life. Just because your parents say a guy/girl is the best match for you, do not go ahead blindly. Study the person as much as possible and only then give your consent. After all, it is your life.