Mistakes That Newly Weds Must Avoid

Well, your wedding day is now over, and the party was so much fun and went just as you had planned. What now? Newlyweds now have a big path to travel ahead together.

Handy tips to go right all the way

• It is best to accept your life partner as he/she is. If you have not liked a trait or manner of your partner before marriage, do not expect he/she to change after marriage; learn to live with it. We all have our imperfections. Trying to change your partner forcibly will result in damaging your marriage or you will end up distancing yourself from your partner.
• The first fight often follows soon after the wedding. Try to remain as logical and calm as you can in a heated argument. Shouting and yelling never helps. If you feel the urge to be violent very strongly, consult a therapist.

• It is your responsibility to start off on the right foot with your in laws. Make the extra effort, even if the in-laws are not very friendly people. Remember when you are into a hostile relationship with your in-laws, it is your partner who is caught up in the middle and suffers the most. You definitely do not want the person you love to be hurt.
• Never be jealous on your partner’s friends from the opposite sex. Remember your partner has chosen you above all of them, so if you are not trusting him/her, you are ruining your relationship. Never compare your partner with any friend of yours who belongs to the same sex as that of your partner.
• Spend more time with your life partner. Friends are important, but you have to realize that late night parties and hanging out with friends at clubs till late hours is not the right thing to do for married people. You have someone waiting and worrying for you at home, so act mature. Care for your partner’s feelings.
• Do not rush into having a child. There has to be a proper planning before you make any such important decision.

Do you have some other tips to share from your experience? Share them here.

The 7 Vows of Indian Marriage – Their Significance

In Indian Hindu marriages, the groom and the bride has to take seven pledges in a ritual popularly known as ‘phera’. Each phera has certain significance; in fact, the pheras are lessons for the husband and wife to live in harmony as a couple through thick and thin for the days to come.

The first vow

The groom pledges to make his wife and children happy in all possible ways, and the bride pledges to shoulder all responsibilities for the good of her husband and his family.

The second vow

Here, the groom requests the bride to be his strength in providing security and protection to the family successfully. The bride agrees to this request on the condition that she is provided undivided attention, faithfulness and true love in return.

The third vow

The bride and the groom pledge to remain spiritually committed to each other. The bride also promises that she will remain chaste all her life.

 The fourth vow

The bride and the groom pledges to respect and care for the elders in the family. The bride promises to serve as well as please her husband in all manners possible. The groom on the other hand, thanks his wife for bring happiness and blessedness in his life.

The fifth vow

Here the couple does not take a vow but they pray to God for the good of all living beings in the world. They also pray for each other’s family’s welfare.

The sixth vow

At this stage, God is invoked to bless the bride and the groom for a long and happy life together. The groom expresses a wish that his wife will fill his life with joy and peace, and the bride assures him that she will do so.

The seventh vow

On the last vow, the couple prays for a lifelong relationship with understanding and loyalty.

In different religions and cultures, the vows may be different, but the essence of the vows remains commitment and true love for each other.

Now that you know what the vows mean, marriage will be more meaningful to you. If you understand what you are promising, marriage will be a very serious affair for you.

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Significance of Sindoor in Hindu Marriages

We all know that the sindoor or vermilion is a symbol of marriage for Hindus; the bride has to wear sindoor in the parting of her hair or on the upper part of her forehead from the wedding day onwards. This is almost a compulsion for Hindus.

Hinduism believes that Goddess Parvati protects men whose wives wear the sindoor. The mention of sindoor has also been made in The Puranas, Lalitha Sahasranamam and Soundarya Lahharis.

Explanations for wearing the sindoor

Since the sindoor is a wedding symbol that only the woman carries, it is believed by many that husbands try to show the world that a woman is his. The sindoor in this case, remains as just a symbol of ownership.

However, according to experts in Vedic traditions, the sindoor is applied to the wife by her husband at the time of wedding to imply that she is now protected by her husband and anyone who dares to harm her in any manner will have to face the husband's wrath.

Married Hindu women on the other hand believe that wearing the sindoor will give their husbands life-long protection.

It is also believed among Hindus that the sindoor is a sign of good fortune and represents the female energy of Sati and Parvati.


So, ladies tell us what you think about wearing the sindoor. Feel free to share your views.

Gender Equality in Marriage – Economic Perspective

Expectations – yes, it is the right word. The husband has certain expectations from the wife, and the wife has certain expectations from the husband, and when one fails or does not live up to the other’s expectation, the marriage starts to crumble. This is common and it’s happening even now when you are reading this.

Today a man and a woman are earning the same, and in certain cases, the wife is earning more than the husband. This economic change is vital to the changing roles of the husband and wife in marriage; while women have an assertive role to play at their work stations, they do not want to be submissive when it comes to managing the household. The men, on the other hand receive a lot of help economically with their wives working, and at the same time lose the dominance they once had on the women in the house.

Both husband and wife should treat each other as equals and share all the household chores; they should be able to connect to each other well by way of free communication. If husbands and wives do not struggle to make ‘gender equality in marriage’ a truth, the marriage is likely to fall apart sooner or later.

What is your take on this? We invite you to share your views with us.

A festive Offer to Let You find a Partner For Your Heart Faster

VivahaBandhan, India’s favourite matrimonial service provider has once again brought for you an offer that is simply irresistible. For the ones who are looking for a life partner, the festive season may make you long for a soul mate to share your happiness with, so here’s VivahaBandhan.com with its OFFER.

The paid membership/subscription rates have been slashed down only for you. 

-  Pay Rs. 1700 and get upgraded to the Gold Plus membership plan for FREE

- Pay Rs. 2500 and get upgraded to the Diamond Plus membership plan for FREE

-  Pay Rs. 4500 and get upgraded to the Platinum Plus membership plan for FREE

Note that originally the rate for Gold Plus membership was Rs. 2490 for a period of 3 months; the rate for Diamond Plus membership was Rs. 3490 for a period of 6 months; and the rate for Platinum Plus membership was Rs. 5490 for a period of 12 months. This means that you are getting a Gold Plus membership, Diamond Plus membership, or a Platinum Plus membership and all of the added features at the lowest possible prices.

This is your best bet at getting the maximum responses from suitable matches, and personally contacting the best matches without having to wait. You can get so many added benefits like initiating chat with matches, sending them personalized messages, knowing them better by calling them, etc. If you are becoming a paid member with VivahaBandhan now by availing this offer, you can find your match much sooner than you expect. In all probability, you might have your life partner by your side the next festive season.

VivahaBandhan – India’s Leading & Favourite Matrimonial Service Provider

VivahaBandhan understands the needs of today’s couples from one another and is feature-rich to make the search for a life partner easy and fast.                         

Rated as one of the most popular matrimonial service providers, VivahaBandhan.com is a platform where individuals can find life partners belonging from the same community. There are several profiles from each community for every member to choose their ideal soul mate. The Indian matrimonial website comes up with suitable matches for members to help them select their life partners.

VivahaBandhan brings for individuals seriously wanting to get married the most amazing new premium packages with the latest exclusive features available online. The packages are not a burden on individuals’ pockets, but they surely make the search advanced and easy. The 3 jumbo packages are Gold Plus, Platinum Plus and Diamond Plus. The benefits of using these packages include:

•Privileges of the standard packages in match search.

•Viewing ‘extra contact details’ for speeding up matrimony process.

•‘Star Profile’ designation for being featured prominently in search results.

•Displaying longer video profiles.

•Specially designed email with profile details is distributed to unlimited profiles match one’s preference at one go.

VivahaBandhan has also come up with a foolproof plan to make security even tighter for women profiles. Only women members of the matrimonial site are allowed to block their contact details now and unblock them for certain profiles only.

With the marriage season on, your marriage can also be happening soon; maybe your life partner is just a click away. VivahaBandhan promises that members will get their preferred match soon after they register for free. Paid members of the matrimonial site are at a greater advantage with several privileges, and they find their matches sooner. The fees for paid membership are very reasonable and members are provided several options to choose from while upgrading to paid membership as per their convenience.

Hunt is on for the Perfect Match Through Matrimonial Sites

The hype around matrimonial service providers in India keeps increasing everyday; thanks to the demands of the marriage market in the country. Previously the notion among the masses was that matrimonial sites exist only for the ones who cannot get a bride, groom to marry, but the truth is different. People register with the online matrimony websites in India only to get a partner who best matches their preferences.

When you register with an online matrimony service, the platform gives you the opportunity to choose from a plethora of options and make the right selection. The range of options is limited when you start searching for a life partner through relatives and acquaintances. Besides, when you are searching for your partner online, you do not require divulging all your personal details; you may search actively without disclosing your real name, phone number and contact details. Therefore, your friends and relatives cannot find out that you are seeking a partner, if you prefer things to be that way.

Online matrimonial service providers make you fill up simple forms while registering; you must cooperate at this time. The information you provide will be used later for finding you your most suitable match so that you can proceed further. So spare some time to fill up the forms even if you hate to do so; it will reap the rewards for you later. Some matrimonial websites make the process of registering smooth and easy for users, so that the process completes faster and the users can start the search for a life partner sooner. It is recommended that the users upload their photos when they register, as this increases their chances of getting more responses from other profiles. However, if you are uncomfortable with having a profile picture, you can carry on your search without it, but in that case the number of responses might not be too impressive.

So, if you want to get married, start creating profiles on matrimony websites today. Narrow your search by preferring brides/grooms from specific communities, age groups, nationalities, and other categories. You will be amazed at how fast you can reach the “one” partner you had been looking for. Good luck on that!